We are committed to speaking out about domestic abuse and offering support, with the idea that many small voices can make one big voice.
We’re not ‘experts’ just people who have experienced abuse and are passionate about helping others.
Domestic abuse happens to all kinds of people in all kinds of relationships. There is no formula. Men abuse women, women abuse men, lesbian and gay relationships experience abuse, rich or poor, married or not. Abuse can happen to the strongest most successful of people or the tired mother at home. Abusers can look like the stereotypical abuser or they can look like the best, kindest, sweetest most thoughtful partner in the world.
There are no rules.
All we know for sure is that domestic abuse is usually very well hidden
Many suffer from domestic abuse for many years in silence. Unable to tell friends and family through shame, or a feeling of embarrassment that they have done something wrong or made bad choices.
This is not the case.
Abuse is a choice made by the abuser. It can stop, it should stop, but many abusers are unable to do so, unwilling to do so, and do not view their behaviour as wrong.
It is wrong.
Domestic abuse certainly isn’t always physical.
Emotional abuse always happens before any physical abuse, often for many years and in most cases never even leads to physical violence. Emotional abuse leaves emotional scars and causes unimaginable pain, but it’s not easy to recognise.
By speaking up and telling our stories, sharing our experiences, then maybe we can find a better life and help others find a better life too.
If you’d like to write for us, share your story or experiences, or simply share a resource or link you feel could be useful to someone then please contact us. We welcome anonymous posts and will protect your identity and anonymity at all times.
If you’d like to contribute or offer support in any way then please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org